tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136343122448225342.post7066217528879503010..comments2022-11-18T09:47:56.455+01:00Comments on Running Around: My Funny ValentineUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136343122448225342.post-25464463623667252522012-02-20T11:38:19.105+01:002012-02-20T11:38:19.105+01:00PPC, I agree with you to some extent, although my ...PPC, I agree with you to some extent, although my thoughts about birth were quite different from yours the first time round. As I said, I did want a natural birth for Malo, because I thought that was good for him. But, having spent LOADS of time thinking about all this since then, I now realise that<br />1. I kept thiking about what was good for him (or what I thought was good for him... what the hell did I know?), never about what was good for me, although it was definitely the two of us on that boat!<br />2. I let myself getting influenced by some people around me and some readings, who make you feel very guilty ("you're letting your baby down if you don't go through the suffering of coming to the world with him") if you consider something else than a drug-free birth (at home of possible... although I did not go that far!). I am not saying I would do differently if I had my first baby now and already knew what I know now, but I would probably be more ready to acknowledge that 1. I was s*** scared about the prospect of a natural birth because to me that meant to lose control entirely (for other women, it is of course right the opposite!), 2. things can go a different way you would like / plan (control, hey?!) them to, and it will not mean you, as a mother, have failed in any way... <br /><br />For these reasons, I am more open to... anything!, this time round... If the propsect of a vbac does not look good, will it necessariy be better for my daugther that I give it a go anyway? Will a c-section have a negative impact on how we bond (as some litterature wants you to believe)... I don't think so...<br /><br />OK, no need to worry about your comment being longer than my post anymore... I think I managed to set things right again (and also commented for far long on yours... sorry!).Mapphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02342013052075227227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136343122448225342.post-67513354376170194232012-02-20T11:25:39.152+01:002012-02-20T11:25:39.152+01:00Angela, out of curiosity, and unless it is a bit t...Angela, out of curiosity, and unless it is a bit too personal to mention here : what's the reason why your ob-gyn told you this that early? I remember thinking, when you wrote about having your c-section already scheduled, that this was very early on in pregnancy. In France, unlike 20-30 years ago where, if you had had one c-section, they would not even consider letting you try for a vbac, they know - bar some rare and specific cases - wait until the very last weeks to take that decision. My ob-gyn for example told me that, even tough the prospect of a vbac does not look too good rigth now, he'd rather wait until the 9mth visit to make up his mind, since, despite a narrow pelvis, the chances of a "normal" birth could improve between now and then, if the baby decides to get down more, if she's well positioned, if I start getting more dilated, in a nutshell if my body shows signs of being more ready! What's ob-gyns's take on all this in the US? <br /><br />In any case, your "due" (as in scheduled!) date must be fast approaching now! Are you like me and having mixed feelings about the prospect of knowing the date in advance? For me, on one hand I am like "I am bit enough as it is, not having to wait until week 41 - mind you, the c-section would be scheduled only for week 40 because of the ob-gyn's holiday! - is fine by me, and feeling weird about the absence of "who knows when she'll turn up" this time, and feeling like I'll turn up at the hospital like I would for routine surgery... while I'll be actually giving birth to what will most certainly be our last kid!Mapphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02342013052075227227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136343122448225342.post-40400053152582098372012-02-17T22:43:51.560+01:002012-02-17T22:43:51.560+01:00I had an emergency c-section as well and for this ...I had an emergency c-section as well and for this pregnancy the doctor told me "there's no way in hell if you were my wife that I would let you try to push a baby out" so a c-section has been scheduled and I am okay with it. And given I am not dilated at all, my pelvis hasn't expanded and the baby hasn't dropped it look like we've made the right decision as I have the same issues. The drama of bringing Zach into the world was terrifying. I'm relieved not to face that drama again. I still consider the birth of Zach the greatest day of my life but David calls it his worst. I guess he was worried he was going to lose his baby and his wife at the same time.Angela and Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15196403668528302122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136343122448225342.post-80467346562622385002012-02-17T21:25:38.301+01:002012-02-17T21:25:38.301+01:00well you knew I was going to comment on this post!...well you knew I was going to comment on this post! I love your attitude towards birthing strategy i.e. whatever nets me a healthy baby (I would selfishly add and me the least possible amount of pain). As I have been trolling the internet reading about vbac etc., I have been amazed at how VBAC vs repeat c-section has been so politicized with women talking about "defending the RIGHT to use their vagina" whoa! maybe i am too hopelessly un-political, but really? <br />and i remain amazed at how similar malo & la cocotte's birth stories are (her heart rate "only" got down to 70 bpm during contractions). scary. totally. enough to make any birth "plan" fly right out of one's head!!<br />anyway before my comment becomes longer than your post - congratulations on your little girl! i am excited for you & your family.PiccolaPineConehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09520539255908849462noreply@blogger.com